5 Types of Cheaters

5 Types of Cheaters

The arguing is over and the affair has been drug out into the open. Still full of adrenaline and conflicting emotions the different relationship options start flashing through your mind. One of the biggest will likely be: Should I stay or do I demand we end it? While there are a multitude of factors, one of them is whether they are likely to cheat again. In this situation knowing what kind of cheater your partner is should factor in.

  • Serial Cheater:

    This cheater is characterized by having many different cheating partners’, most of them likely one night stands. This cheater feels the need to cheat not because of dissatisfaction in their relationship, but instead the desire for the thrill. Emotionally they are rarely involved with their partners, but continue to crave the sexual excitement.

  • Emotional Affection Cheater:

    This cheater has formed an emotional attraction to another person, usually through a friend scenario and the relationship is likely just evolving. The cheater may be under a great deal of stress or depression and has formed an attachment to someone other than their spouse because of it.

  • Opportunistic Cheater:

    This cheater may still be very attached to their spouse, but has an attraction to another. This type of cheating is most often driven by opportunity and risk taking behavior. In some scenarios alcohol or substance use may have been a factor in the encounter. After the encounter they frequently experience large amounts of guilt.

  • Romantic Cheater:

    This cheater has very little emotional attachment to their spouse and remain committed to the relationship but still craves an intimate connection to someone else. Once they find the intimate connection though they still rarely form a long term relationship with the other party.

  • Committed Cheater:

    This cheater is committed to their relationship but lacks emotional feelings for their partner. They are able to justify the cheating by convincing themselves they are entitled to have the things they are not getting from their relationship. In the end they do not want to lose the relationship because they are concerned about how others will view the end of their relationship and do not want to be viewed as a failure.

Not sure what kind of cheater your spouse is? You may consider a Private Detective. Todd Redding is a veteran licensed private investigator that specializes in affair discovery, cheating spouse and alimony private investigations. The PI Agency is a 20 year Atlanta, Georgia based private investigation agency that caters to the needs of domestic and civil private investigations throughout Georgia, Alabama and Florida. You don’t have to face this difficult situation alone, please call The PI Agency, 1-888-77-0683.

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Financial Infidelity

Financial Infidelity

There is a form of infidelity that has become rampant, and it doesn’t require actual cheating. Its financial infidelity and according to recent studies almost half of our population may be committing it. Unlike physical and emotional infidelity it doesn’t require a spouse to be having an affair with another person. However, this form of infidelity does have some of the same trademarks. Financial infidelity is the act of holding bank accounts or stashes of money, spending money, possessing credit cards, or otherwise incurring debt and keeping it a secret from one’s spouse or partner.

Much like physical and emotional infidelity the act of hiding money or spending habits is often done because of a lack of trust in the relationship. Financial infidelity usually starts when partners have different money management styles. Where one partner may constantly want to save money, the other may be a compulsive spender. When layered onto disproportionate earnings between partners, money can become a hot topic and when conversations hit a standoff one of the partners may resort to financial infidelity.

Some of the warning signs of financial infidelity may include:

  • Not seeing copies of the bills each month and when asked your partner constantly has a reason why they aren’t available
  • Your partner insisting on maintaining a separate bank account and not allowing you access or confiding in you how much the bank account contains
  • Receipts for items that list a different amount from what your partner told you the item cost
  • Your partner shutting down or becoming defensive whenever finances are brought up
  • Coming across a stash of money that you don’t know the origin of
  • Discovering your partner has a bank account they have never mentioned

If you think your loved one may be hiding things you may consider a Private Detective. Todd Redding is a veteran licensed private investigator that specializes in affair discovery, cheating spouse and alimony private investigations. The PI Agency is a 20 year Atlanta, Georgia based private investigation agency that caters to the needs of domestic and civil private investigations throughout Georgia, Alabama and Florida. You don’t have to face this difficult situation alone, please call The PI Agency, 678-316-9374.

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They Cheated: Now What?

They Cheated: Now What?

“My spouse cheated on me.” Typing those words into a search engine can be an almost surreal experience. Even odder is that the phrase tried to auto fill. Cheating is now considered almost a common place event in our society, but that doesn’t mean we know what to do now. So finally the truth came out, so now what?

After cheating comes to light there are a multitude of avenues to take, and each couple needs to decide for themselves. The first option being an end to the relationship with one or both parties determining the relationship will not be continued. This can be in the form of a separation or directly to divorce.

The second option is a bit broader. Sometimes revelation of cheating can act as a catalyst for the relationship to evolve. While the relationship may not be the same, acknowledging what was lacking can help the relationship move forward.

Regardless of which option you choose consider using some of the steps below:

  • Take an action of not taking action: In the heat of the moment after an affair has come to light it can be easy to deliver ultimatums or other extreme courses of action. These provide a temporary feeling of comfort, but once the extreme emotions have dwindled may lead to less opportunities or regret over the actions taken. Start with the smaller decisions.
  • Handle logistics: Make sure the day to day logistics are handled. If you have children, make sure their rides and activities are covered. In the time after the acknowledgement of cheating you may be distracted, irritable, depressed or even emotionally shut down. Don’t let this prevent you from making sure your day to day life is still on schedule.
  • Create a support network: Reach out to those you trust, you may even consider a therapist for one or both of you. Your support network can help handle logistics, provide an ear to listen when you are ready to talk, and provide emotional support during the process.
  • Don’t hide from the truth: Acknowledging the cheating can be an emotional and painful process, but it’s important not to try and sweep it back under the rug. Ask questions, as much as the answers may hurt it can help show what led to the cheating in the first place.

If you think your loved one may be cheating on you or hiding things you may consider a Private Detective. Todd Redding is a veteran licensed private investigator that specializes in affair discovery, cheating spouse and alimony private investigations. The PI Agency is a 20 year Atlanta, Georgia based private investigation agency that caters to the needs of domestic and civil private investigations throughout Georgia, Alabama and Florida. You don’t have to face this difficult situation alone, please call The PI Agency, 678-316-9374.

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Emotional Infidelity

Emotional Infidelity

As a society we have a generally understood definition of cheating. That definition involves a physical betrayal. Recent statistics suggest as many as 60% of married individuals will at some point in their marriage engage in a physical act of infidelity. These numbers may be on the conservative side as more opportunities for infidelity are becoming available. As more women enter the workforce the opportunities for office romances increase. Additionally, modern technology allows contact to be made without alerting the spouse’s suspicions. Visits to chat rooms, sending private e-mails, even texting allow parties to contact each other discreetly. Eventually though this form of cheating leads to physical encounters. The physical encounter can serve as a concrete understanding cheating has occurred.

Yet, there is another form of cheating: emotional infidelity. It is generally agreed upon that emotional infidelity involves forming and fostering emotional intimacy that can promote the possibility of sexual intimacy at some point in the relationship. However, this is not the primary focus of the relationship from the beginning. The other party may be there as a confidant, someone to join on adventures with, or even a supportive friend. Outwardly, a relationship of this nature is not a threat to a marriage, but what about when the spouse doesn’t divulge all the encounters?

Emotional infidelity is so much more difficult to track because the basis for the relationship is non sexual, meaning opportunities to detect the infidelity are much fewer. The damage caused by emotional infidelity doesn’t wait until the relationship has become sexual, it appears much earlier. A majority of spouses have a friend they don’t always mention spending time with. Even this seemingly minor transgression can start to plant seeds of doubt and begin to dismantle a relationship. Even though the encounters may not have been sexual, the secrecy can cause the spouse to have doubts about their partner’s loyalty.

It is incredibly difficult to determine when an emotionally platonic relationship turns into emotional infidelity. If you feel like your spouse is hiding things or have begun to question their loyalty it may be time to find out the truth.

Todd Redding and his staff of professionally trained licensed private investigators specialize in affair discovery / cheating spouse private investigations, child welfare and alimony recovery. The PI Agency is a 20 year Atlanta, Georgia based private investigation agency that caters to the needs of domestic and civil private investigations throughout Georgia, Alabama and Florida. You don’t have to face your difficult situation alone, call The PI Agency, 678-316-9374.

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