A Few Good Men
There is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. PROVERBS 18:24
Tim Kimmel, who along with his wife, Darcy, is a frequent speaker at our Weekend to Remember marriage conferences, remembers the two of them going out to eat sometime around his fortieth birthday. As they were waiting for their meal to arrive, he began doodling a crude picture of a casket on his paper napkin.
Turning it around to face his wife, he asked, “Darcy, how many people does it take to carry one of these things?”
“I don’t know,” she answered. “Six. Or eight.”
“Okay, if I were to die tonight,” he asked, “who would you call to be my pallbearers?” She began giving him a name or two, followed by the names of his brothers.
“No, not my brothers. They don’t count. They’d be required to be there anyway. I want you to think of people who wouldn’t feel like they had to come but who would drop whatever they were doing if you called them.” Unfortunately, those names didn’t fire so quickly to mind. And that’s when Tim realized that he couldn’t be sure he had enough real friends to answer his roll call for casket carriers.
That bothered him. He realized that, like so many other men, he had not really worked on building friendships. And that bothered him.
Since that night, Tim has been spending time with men, pouring his life into them. He is choosing to invest himself in people rather than fritter his time away on trivial, temporary matters.
You have a lot of choices in front of you—all kinds of ways you could spend your time and energy in the remaining years of your life. Will you use them to draw you closer to others or more deeply within yourself?
Who would your six or eight pallbearers probably be?
Ask the Lord to show you the value of other people . . . and the mirage of most everything else.