Two by Two
The things which you have heard from me, . . . entrust these to faithful men who will be able to teach others also. 2 TIMOTHY 2:2
Christianity has become too much of a spectator sport. Like football, it’s 22 players on the field desperately in need of rest, being watched by thousands who are in need of exercise.
Over the past 10 years, Barbara and I have enjoyed the spiritual exercise of mentoring a small number of younger individuals and couples. We’ve enjoyed coaching and passing on to the next generation lessons we’ve learned. If you’re a seasoned, experienced couple that is relatively happy—not perfect, not infallible, but relatively happy and satisfied with your relationship—you have all the qualifications you need to become a marriage mentor. You don’t have to be certified or board trained. You just need to have lived. Experienced a few failures. Learned a few lessons.
It’s as simple as praying and asking God to lead you to a particular couple who are starting their journey together. Invite them over for dinner and say you’d like to get to know them. Then let God take it from there. Get together once a month for a couple of hours and tell them about the most important spiritual lessons you’ve learned.
There is a generation of young couples who are hungry for this kind of mentoring. We live in a high-tech, low-touch society that doesn’t know how to do relationships very well. What better place for this to happen than in a very informal, very supportive, very personal, couple-to-couple relationship where people are intentionally building into each other’s lives?
I believe this is one of the greatest opportunities before us today—to reach down to a younger generation and give them the coaching they need to step up.
Think of one thing you’ve learned along the way in areas like communication, conflict resolution, money management and sexuality. Do you feel you’re at the point where you could mentor a younger couple? Make a short list of younger couples and pray about which one you should invite over.
Ask God for the courage and the ability to build your lives into one or two other couples.