Signs Your Child is Being Abused
Are you strangely having behavioral challenges with your child and are unable to figure out why? One thing to consider is that they may be getting abused from a childcare provider, teacher, step-parent or parent that has temporary custody. Unhealthy care, abuse and even violence outside of the home, unfortunately, happens more than you would think and can be the leading reason of a sudden and progressive change in a child’s behavior .
When children are exposed to violence and abuse, their expectations for an unsurprising world are shattered and they may lose their basic trust in authority figures. When exposed to violence and abuse, children’s reactions can be immediate or appear much later. Reactions differ in severity, based on a child’s home life, and cover a range of behaviors depending on the occurrence, intensity, and frequency of the traumatic events.
Here are some warning signs that your child could be abused away from home:
■ has your child become passive and lost an interest in playing?
■ has your child become overly-compliant?
■does your child show signs of extreme irritability or have difficulty calming down?
■ does your child become easily startled?
■ behaviors more common in younger children: sudden bed wetting after successful potty-training, chronic thumb sucking or hysterical crying can be major warning signs.
■ does your child throw frequent tantrums?
■ does your child have changes in levels of activity or is more exhausted than usual?
■ does your child obsess on specific events over and over in play or conversation?
If your child shows any of these signs, you might consider hiring a private investigator specialist to look into the welfare of your child to make certain the behavioral changes are not the result of abuse outside of their home.
You don’t have to face this difficult and scary situation alone, please call The PI Agency, 678-316-9374. Todd Redding and his staff of professionally trained licensed private investigators specialize in child welfare private investigations. The PI Agency is a 20 year Atlanta, Georgia based private investigation agency that caters to the needs of domestic and civil private investigations throughout Georgia, Alabama and Florida.
Best of all, “Our advice is always free.”
Signs Your Spouse May Be Cheating
If you suspect something is wrong in your relationship with your spouse and you are beginning to wonder if they may be cheating on you, then you might be right. The power of intuition should not be underestimated!
When a spouse is cheating, it is completely natural to have an intense ‘gut feeling’, however, what evidence can you gather on your own to support this feeling? I will answer this question in just a moment.
First, let’s take a look at a list of signs for you to watch for that can be signals that your spouse is being unfaithful. These behaviors can be indicators but not necessarily always correct. If your spouse demonstrates more than one of these behaviors, there is a stronger reason to think that your relationship may be in trouble!
Behavior That Is Not Their Usual Character
- Does your spouse suddenly seem secretive or detached?
- Has your spouse had a change of interest in foods or clothing style?
- Have eating habits (dieting) changed or an increased interest getting into shape?
- Is your spouse purchasing or using a different type of birth control or using birth control after a long period of time has passed without using any at all?
- Is your spouse suddenly increasingly concerned about their hygiene and physical appearance?
- Has your spouse begun using perfume or cologne or changed to an unfamiliar fragrance?
Uncomfortable Around You
- Is your spouse suddenly overly attached or acting especially guilty around you?
- Does your spouse over react or become defensive when asked simple, innocent questions?
- Is your sex life becoming less passionate, less frequent or unimportant?
Computer/Cell Phone/Mobile Device Clues
- Is your spouse overly protective of their cell phone or password(s)?
- Is your spouse regularly clearing their browsing history?
- Have you suddenly discovered a second cell phone or mobile app used to communicate discretely?
- Has your spouse begun taking calls outside or leaving the room when their phone rings?
- Does your spouse have a sudden spike in restaurant or shopping charges on their credit card?
Changes in Home and Work Mannerisms
- Is your spouse coming home later than usual?
- Does your spouse leave suddenly for errands that are not logical?
- Has your spouse begun sleeping in a different room or staying awake long after you’re asleep?
- Do last minute office meetings occur more frequently?
- Has your spouse started treating you in a different manner?
- Does your spouse spend less time with the children than typical?
If your spouse shows any of these signs, you might consider the help of a private investigator specialist to make certain the behavioral changes are not the result of an affair outside of your relationship. Remember, these are simply signs to look for that can confirm your feelings or intuition as to whether your spouse might be cheating, but not definitive proof. If you need someone to speak to our advice is always free!
Todd Redding and his staff of professionally trained licensed private investigators specialize in affair discovery and cheating spouse private investigations. The PI Agency is a 20 year Atlanta, Georgia based private investigation agency that caters to the needs of domestic and civil private investigations throughout Georgia, Alabama and Florida. You don’t have to face this difficult and scary situation alone, please call The PI Agency, 678-316-9374.
Best of all, “Our advice is always free.”
A Biblical Perspective by Todd Redding
Over filled with stories of sexual escapades, secret rendezvous, and extramarital affairs, today’s media teach that immorality means freedom, perversion is natural, and commitment is old-fashioned. Sex, created by God and pronounced good in Eden, has been twisted, exploited, and turned into an urgent, illicit, casual and self-gratifying activity. Love has turned into lust, giving into getting, and lasting commitment into “no strings attached.”
There is a moving poem in the bible that tells the story about a Jewish woman and her husband, King Solomon. The story behind this poem describes in intimate detail their feelings for each other and passionate desire to be together. Wherever mentioned in this message, sex and marriage are written about in their deserved, God-given perspective.
Be encouraged in your relationship by this historical story with two layers of meaning. On one level, we learn about love, marriage and sex; and on the other level, we see God’s overwhelming love for his people. As you read Song of Songs, commit yourself to seeing life, sex and marriage from His point of view.
Song of Songs 4 “A Troubling Dream”
I slept but my heart was awake. Listen! My lover is knocking: “Open to me, my sister, my darling, my dove, my flawless one. My head is drenched with dew, my hair with the dampness of the night.”
I have taken off my robe- must I put it on again? I have washed my feet- must I soil them again?
My lover thrust his hand through the latch-opening; my heart began to pound for him.
I arose to open for my lover, and my hands dripped with myrrh, my fingers with flowing myrrh, on the handles of the lock.
I opened for my lover, but my lover had left; he was gone. My heart sank at his departure. I looked for him but did not find him. I called him but he did not answer.
The watchmen found me as they made their rounds in the city. They beat me, bruised me; they took away my cloak, those watchmen of the walls!
O daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you- if you find my lover, what will you tell him? Tell him I am faint with love.
A Friends Doubting Response
How is your beloved better than others, most beautiful of women? How is your beloved better than others, that you charge us so?
M lover is radiant and ruddy, outstanding among ten thousand.
His head is purest gold; his hair is wavy and black as a raven.
His eyes are like doves by the water streams, washed in milk, mounted like jewels.
His cheeks are like beds of spice yielding perfume. His lips are like lilies dripping with myrrh.
His arms are rods of gold set with chrysolite. His body is like polished ivory decorated with sapphires.
His legs are pillars of marble set on bases of pure gold. His appearance is like Lebanon, choice as its cedars.
His mouth is sweetness itself; he is altogether lovely. This is my lover, this is my friend, O daughters of Jerusalem.
It is almost certain that over time and the growth of familiarity, a marriage will start to lose its initial fireworks. Eye contact and gentle touches no longer generate the same consensual response. Conflicts and the pressures of life slowly move in, causing us to lose our tenderness towards our spouse. The world is not a haven for lovers; in fact, external stress works against relationships, most of the time. But spouses should learn to be a safe-haven for each other. If intimacy and passion decline, it can be renewed and regenerated. Try to remember those initial butterfly feelings, the excitement of sex, your spouse’s strengths and the commitment both of you made to each other. When you reflect and focus on the positives, reconciliation and renewal becomes possible.
The girl in the story was outside by herself in the night. During this era, she was most likely assumed to be a criminal or a prostitute and treated as such. Although she inherited great risk, this image symbolizes the pain she felt at being separated from her lover.
She calls Solomon her “friend.” Just as in any healthy marriage, lovers are also good friends. Too often people are driven into marriage by the exciting feelings of love and passion before they take the necessary time to develop a deep friendship. This involves listening, sharing responsibilities and caring as much, if not more, about your spouse’s satisfaction rather than your own. Friendship takes time and patience, but it makes a love relationship much more satisfying.