They Cheated: Now What?

They Cheated: Now What?

“My spouse cheated on me.” Typing those words into a search engine can be an almost surreal experience. Even odder is that the phrase tried to auto fill. Cheating is now considered almost a common place event in our society, but that doesn’t mean we know what to do now. So finally the truth came out, so now what?

After cheating comes to light there are a multitude of avenues to take, and each couple needs to decide for themselves. The first option being an end to the relationship with one or both parties determining the relationship will not be continued. This can be in the form of a separation or directly to divorce.

The second option is a bit broader. Sometimes revelation of cheating can act as a catalyst for the relationship to evolve. While the relationship may not be the same, acknowledging what was lacking can help the relationship move forward.

Regardless of which option you choose consider using some of the steps below:

  • Take an action of not taking action: In the heat of the moment after an affair has come to light it can be easy to deliver ultimatums or other extreme courses of action. These provide a temporary feeling of comfort, but once the extreme emotions have dwindled may lead to less opportunities or regret over the actions taken. Start with the smaller decisions.
  • Handle logistics: Make sure the day to day logistics are handled. If you have children, make sure their rides and activities are covered. In the time after the acknowledgement of cheating you may be distracted, irritable, depressed or even emotionally shut down. Don’t let this prevent you from making sure your day to day life is still on schedule.
  • Create a support network: Reach out to those you trust, you may even consider a therapist for one or both of you. Your support network can help handle logistics, provide an ear to listen when you are ready to talk, and provide emotional support during the process.
  • Don’t hide from the truth: Acknowledging the cheating can be an emotional and painful process, but it’s important not to try and sweep it back under the rug. Ask questions, as much as the answers may hurt it can help show what led to the cheating in the first place.

If you think your loved one may be cheating on you or hiding things you may consider a Private Detective. Todd Redding is a veteran licensed private investigator that specializes in affair discovery, cheating spouse and alimony private investigations. The PI Agency is a 20 year Atlanta, Georgia based private investigation agency that caters to the needs of domestic and civil private investigations throughout Georgia, Alabama and Florida. You don’t have to face this difficult situation alone, please call The PI Agency, 678-316-9374.

Best of all, “Our advice is always free.”

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Emotional Infidelity

Emotional Infidelity

As a society we have a generally understood definition of cheating. That definition involves a physical betrayal. Recent statistics suggest as many as 60% of married individuals will at some point in their marriage engage in a physical act of infidelity. These numbers may be on the conservative side as more opportunities for infidelity are becoming available. As more women enter the workforce the opportunities for office romances increase. Additionally, modern technology allows contact to be made without alerting the spouse’s suspicions. Visits to chat rooms, sending private e-mails, even texting allow parties to contact each other discreetly. Eventually though this form of cheating leads to physical encounters. The physical encounter can serve as a concrete understanding cheating has occurred.

Yet, there is another form of cheating: emotional infidelity. It is generally agreed upon that emotional infidelity involves forming and fostering emotional intimacy that can promote the possibility of sexual intimacy at some point in the relationship. However, this is not the primary focus of the relationship from the beginning. The other party may be there as a confidant, someone to join on adventures with, or even a supportive friend. Outwardly, a relationship of this nature is not a threat to a marriage, but what about when the spouse doesn’t divulge all the encounters?

Emotional infidelity is so much more difficult to track because the basis for the relationship is non sexual, meaning opportunities to detect the infidelity are much fewer. The damage caused by emotional infidelity doesn’t wait until the relationship has become sexual, it appears much earlier. A majority of spouses have a friend they don’t always mention spending time with. Even this seemingly minor transgression can start to plant seeds of doubt and begin to dismantle a relationship. Even though the encounters may not have been sexual, the secrecy can cause the spouse to have doubts about their partner’s loyalty.

It is incredibly difficult to determine when an emotionally platonic relationship turns into emotional infidelity. If you feel like your spouse is hiding things or have begun to question their loyalty it may be time to find out the truth.

Todd Redding and his staff of professionally trained licensed private investigators specialize in affair discovery / cheating spouse private investigations, child welfare and alimony recovery. The PI Agency is a 20 year Atlanta, Georgia based private investigation agency that caters to the needs of domestic and civil private investigations throughout Georgia, Alabama and Florida. You don’t have to face your difficult situation alone, call The PI Agency, 678-316-9374.

Best of all, “Our advice is always free.”

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How does one cheat and have no guilt about it?

How does one cheat and have no guilt about it?

There is a small number of the population that never experience guilt when committing the act. A larger majority of people feel the sting of their conscience, however their mental defenses block-out the guilty feelings.
People will resort to blaming, victim thoughts, minimizing their actions, rationalizing, or plain denial as a method to justify their actions and push away the guilty conscience. If there is resentment toward their partner justifying their actions by thinking their partner deserves it. If they have committed to an affair for a long period of time, their heart has likely hardened to the behavior and they don’t feel as guilty.
The lack of remorse doesn’t constitute a lack of conscience. It is an indication that they have thought to the point of justifying what they’ve done in an effort to avoid taking responsibility for their lack of accomplishment in their relationship or marriage.

WHAT were you THINKING??!!!

Sad to say, if they had thought it through and considered the impact of their actions, there is a greater chance they never would have committed the affair. I can’t tell you how many stories I’ve heard from both men and women that say if they had known the consequences of their actions before they had acted, then they would have never done it! I think few people consciously way all the costs when they act out. For your sake and theirs, I wish they’d been thinking. There would be far less business for me, but the world would be in better relationships.
Todd Redding and his staff of professionally trained licensed private investigators specialize in affair discovery / cheating spouse private investigations, child welfare and alimony recovery. The PI Agency is a 20 year Atlanta, Georgia based private investigation agency that caters to the needs of domestic and civil private investigations throughout Georgia, Alabama and Florida. You don’t have to face your difficult situation alone, call The PI Agency, 678-316-9374.

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What to expect with computer monitoring software

What to expect with computer monitoring software

Computer monitoring software can be a valuable tool in an investigation whether it is a cheating spouse or an employee who may be stealing. Monitoring software is not that hard to install however finding the best software may be somewhat of a challenge if you do not know what or where to search.
The best software will include a range of useful tools that will help you covertly monitor a computers browsed websites, keyboard strokes entered, capture chat session, instant messaging , usernames and passwords and much more. Most basic software will come with standard monitoring but will not have a feature for blocking or filtering content. This can be a very useful feature especially if you do not want certain people, like children, browsing to specific websites.
One of the most important features to have in your software is detailed reporting. You will want this so that you can organize the content that you are monitoring. There are a few systems out there that will send automated reports to your email and others that will allow you to access a reporting function from a website. You will also want to make sure your software has a solid help and support team with a great website for resources and FAQ’s.
With computer and internet use at an all time high you will want and need some protection so that you may have peace of mind from all of the “what if” factors. Calling a Private Investigator is extremely helpful in the process of computer monitoring. A private investigator can offer great advice on available software systems. Make sure to ask questions and do some investigating of your own to find the right system for your needs.
Todd Redding and his staff of professionally trained licensed private investigators specialize in affair discovery / cheating spouse private investigations, child welfare and alimony recovery. The PI Agency is a 20 year Atlanta, Georgia based private investigation agency that caters to the needs of domestic and civil private investigations throughout Georgia, Alabama and Florida. You don’t have to face your difficult situation alone, call The PI Agency, 678-316-9374.
Best of all, “Our advice is always free.”

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A Private Investigator’s Night Vision Solution

A Private Investigator’s Night Vision Solution

The AstroScope for Canon SLR is a great night vision PI camera lens. Night vision camera lenses can play a major role in a Private Investigation. Having one that is stable clear and reliable is very important and can mean getting that perfect shot for evidence.
One lens that is impressive dependable and fairly easy to configure is the AstroScope 9350. This modular night vision system will convert your Canon SLR into a powerful night recording device with its Central Intensifier Unit that transforms dark night scenes into bright, high resolution images. The CIU is powered directly from the camera so you will have to make sure you’re running with more than enough battery power when using this lens.
Despite some of the complexities of this lens most camera functions including high quality lens stabilization are retained and there is really not much configuration needed in its setup to the camera. In general this powerful lens is out of box ready to work with your Canon SLR and you can get on your way with the investigation.
Todd Redding and his staff of professionally trained licensed private investigators specialize in affair discovery / cheating spouse private investigations, child welfare and alimony recovery. The PI Agency is a 20 year Atlanta, Georgia based private investigation agency that caters to the needs of domestic and civil private investigations throughout Georgia, Alabama and Florida. You don’t have to face your difficult situation alone, call The PI Agency, 678-316-9374.
Best of all, “Our advice is always free.”

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A brief guide to Alimony

A brief guide to Alimony

Divorce can be daunting and scary or it can be freeing and liberating however one thing that will always remain the same is how to divide assets and custody of your children if you have them.  It may seem like things are equal when you end things however more often than not one person is always stuck living a life that is not up to par with how they were used to living while they were married.

The reason behind alimony in most divorce courts stems from one spouse sacrificing certain things to contribute to the earning potential for the other.  For example if one spouse helps support the other through college it will make their earning potential greater when they are finished with the schooling.

In general alimony is not granted as a punishment but instead given to one of the parties because of a perceived inequity in the results of a marriage.

The more that you are educated about alimony payments the better you will be able to handle an agreement in the time of a settlement.  Divorce is a difficult and emotional situation and having the proper information may save you from months of hardship after a divorce. Make sure that you are ready to fight for what you deserve.

Todd Redding and his staff of professionally trained licensed private investigators specialize in affair discovery / cheating spouse private investigations, child welfare and alimony recovery. The PI Agency is a 20 year Atlanta, Georgia based private investigation agency that caters to the needs of domestic and civil private investigations throughout Georgia, Alabama and Florida. You don’t have to face your difficult situation alone, call The PI Agency, 678-316-9374.

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Online Investigation Techniques that Professional Private Investigators Use

Online Investigation Techniques that Professional Private Investigators Use

If you are wondering what you can do or who you can find to help with an online investigation then look no further.  This article explains some of the simple online techniques that professional private investigators use to track down their targets of investigation.

Some of the key points we will highlight consist of finding a person’s online alias, digging into profiles, pictures and leveraging the internet space to help uncover files and setting up real-time systems to get notifications about a targets online activity.

Data mining is a method that is often used by spam bot’s to guess email addresses but can be a valuable resource for investigating online. People will use nicknames for their online screen names and, more often than not, this screen name will be the same as their email.  An investigator will try sending a test message to this email and if it does not bounce back it is flagged as an email lead.  Links like “forgot password” often time provide pathways for trapping an email address. Have you ever received an email about changing your password? Hmm, if so, someone could be trying to verify your email address.

Reverse image tracking is another tool in the arsenal bag that has been proven effective by professionals.  All that is needed is a person’s name and you can find out what type of websites they visit and how often.  This is done by finding a person’s profile picture on a related site and comparing the picture using a site like tineye.com to generate an image site wide check.  Often cell phones geo target pictures as well making it fairly easy to find where that person is either located or has traveled.

Picture fishing is a way to gain photos from a target.  This can be done by means of a fictitious profile set up on an online or social media site.  Just simply set up an account.

File search can be one of the most effective methods in retrieving valuable information about a target.  Google offers a special search operator which shows files stored on uncovered servers.  To implement this type of search type the following command in Google.com intitle:”index of” “parent directory” Jon Doe.  Jon Doe should be replaced with the alias or name of the person you are looking for.  This technique is known as Advanced Google Search Operator.

Did you know that Google can be set up to alert you when a name of your choice appears in a forum or post and Google will send you an email of their activity?  Simply navigate to Google.com/alerts and start tracking.

I hope this information is useful for you and will help you on your pursuit of whoever you are looking for.  Try some or all of these techniques and you will find some great results.  Happy hunting.

Todd Redding is a veteran licensed private investigator that specializes in affair discovery, cheating spouse and alimony private investigations. The PI Agency is a 20 year Atlanta, Georgia based private investigation agency that caters to the needs of domestic and civil private investigations throughout Georgia, Alabama and Florida. You don’t have to face this difficult situation alone, please call The PI Agency, 678-316-9374.

Best of all, “Our advice is always free.”

ThePIAgency